Faeries Oracle

Card 63 - Indi

Indecision. Wishy-washing. Commitment. Decision making.

If you don't get him on the wish, you might catch him on the wash. But probably not, because by the time you think you've got a commitment from him, he's swung the other way again. Poor Indi, he can't decide between this and that - or is it that and this? If he just had more information, if he just had some kind of guarantee about the outcome, if only he could be certain about things. Well, he can't. That isn't how life is.

Indi sits on our shoulder as we wobble around trying to make a decision, and just as we think we've about got it, he mutters, "But, what if ... ?" And, very likely, we dissolve into confusion again.

Decisions make him nervous because they involve commitment, and Indi seems to be frightened of that. What if he makes the wrong decision and it ruins his (or someone else's) life?

What if he makes no decision, dithering forever, and that causes ruin?

I feel for Indi (and not only because I'm a Libra), for he is the only one of the Faery Challengers who doesn't know what we should be doing. That is, he knows we should be making our decisions clearly and cleanly at the appropriate time, and he has some ideas about how we might more easily go about that, but he is not himself a good decision maker. Sometimes he whispers almost tearfully in my ear, "You're going to drive me mad, you know, if you don't just make ... up ... your ... mind!"

There are many reasons why we hesitate when decision and action are appropriate. However, most of them boil down to fear - fear of making a mistake, fear of harming others, fear of losing something of value to us, fear of harming ourselves, fear of responsibility, fear that we are simply not able to make a proper decision. We need to look honestly at our insecurities, recognizing them for what they are: our insecurities, not reality. Then we need to resolve what we can and set the rest in the balance against what will surely happen if we continue to hesitate. Premature decisions and actions often create problems, but lack of decision is a decision also, and one that creates its own set of misfortunes.

Indi is also known as the Libra's Bane, but an indecisive Libra truly is Indi's bane. He would be so relieved if we would just make our decisions and our commitments and stick to them. Then he might learn to do this for himself and be in a better position to help others.

Caught up in Indi's energy, one Oracle group member who is usually a great decision maker herself responded to the above paragraph. "You lost me here. How would our learning to make decisions help Indi to make decisions? Would it really? Then what would he do? How would he better help other beings having problems with this? Or would the other beings that are having problems cause Indi not to learn to make his own decisions? Or are there no people that Indi knows that he can learn from now, so that he could be different? Or are we talking global change here???"

Er. What I was trying to say was that sometimes it is possible to learn from watching others learn. Indi would like to do this. Then he might be better able to teach those processes. Or perhaps not. At least, I think that is what I mean. The Unity (Card 1) knows there are plenty of beings who need help with this.

Starter Reading

It's decision time. Time to make up your mind, make a decision, then stick to your commitments. Set yourself a definite time period to complete your decision, right down to the day and hour. Give yourself time to put the decision into practice before it is too late. Once that arbitrary but carefully judged decision time is set, ask for guidance for your highest good; then weigh, consider, ponder, and gather information. If we do this, and if we have asked for aid, the answer seems somehow to fall magically into place at the appointed time; then it is just a matter of trusting that answer and carrying it through. We can ask for help with that as well, if we wish. It is willingly given.

Reverse

On the other hand, Indi may be right to hesitate. He may not have enough information to make an informed decision - and neither may you. Hesitate while you question. Find out more. True, we never will have real guarantees from the universe about our decisions and their outcomes, but caution is appropriate here. Learn more. Get agreements in writing. If it doesn't feel right, maybe it isn't right. Consider well before you make promises about this - but once you do make the commitment, stick to it.

The Faery Challengers