Faeries Oracle

Card 21 - The Faery Who Was Kissed by the Pixies

Love given. Love received. Metaphorical open-heart surgery.

Pixie kisses are not chocolate like the well-known Hershey's Kisses, but the Pixies claim that they are a whole lot sweeter and don't do anything dreadful to your teeth. However, if the pixies have been munching faery chocolate, some pixie kisses give people freckles. As Brian wrote, "The pixies say that there cannot be too much kissing! A faery kiss is a blessing indeed." Pay attention when you feel a faery touch on your cheek or lips. Pixie kisses (in fact, all faery kisses) are to be noticed and savored. If you do notice, you will find yourself smiling without meaning to, and feel a surge of warmth swell in your heart.

This faery, Morna, is the queen of love - all kinds of love: sisterly, parental, friendly, unconditional or conditional, either or both. She tells us, "It takes perfect people to have a perfect love. But we, imperfect as we all are, may have many loves - each one perfect for who we are and for what we need now. These loves may not feel perfect, they may not look perfect from the outside, but they fit us now. If we don't like them" - she shrugs - "then we need to change ourselves so that a different kind of perfection fits us."

Here we see Morna in her role as heart surgeon, using the power of love to help us open our hearts when we have closed them out of fear, helping us to expand and become more of what we have the potential to be. Yes, it is true - having an open heart, being willing to love and be loved, makes us vulnerable to loss and grief. But Morna assures me (and I believe her) that once a heart is truly and fully open, even the deepest grief becomes bittersweet, like dark chocolate, and there is no pain that is not balanced by the greater joy of love.

The feeling of giving love is what makes us feel good. What keeps us from enjoying it fully is our desires to own others and to have them constantly "prove" our importance to them. Such proof is impossible. However, this kind of conditional and selflimited love is part of how we learn about real love. If ever you hear yourself asking, "Do you really love me?" or saying, "I don't think you really love me," then you know that the love you are giving to the other is conditional and limited.

Morna would like to help us learn to love others without conditions, and she also would like us to learn to love while still staying properly centered within ourselves. It is important for us not to lose ourselves in others and let their desires become ours while losing sight of what we need for fulfillment in our own lives. In the long run (or even in the not-so-very-long run) that never works out. We only think we know what others want and need, and sooner or later we get it disastrously wrong - usually by thinking we know what they ought to need. We are all learning about love, and in the process of learning, we all act as teachers for each other. Ram Dass said, "The karma of relationships is the hardest karma there is."

"Believe it!" Morna advises. And this is true, no matter what the relationship is. But for all that, love in its purest sense is the fast track to self-realization and enlightenment. The Wild Thing at the top of the picture is filled with bliss and is longing to cuddle its way to enlightenment. Remember, everything and everyone in Faery glows with its own light. So do we. Much of that light is the glow of love. Remembering that is important.

Opening our hearts more widely to the giving and receiving of love evokes the well-kissed Faery within.

Starter Reading

Oh, wow! What can I say here? Love, sweet love. Accept it, burnish it up, add to it, and pass it on.

The presence of the Faery Who Was Kissed by the Pixies suggests giving and receiving love and intimacy in any of a wide variety of relationships. She gives notice that this is a time to open and heal our hearts. Different aspects of life may well be flowing happily together, healing separations and hurts from the past. Bonding may take place and deep feeling emerge. Changes for the better may occur in all aspects of life, but especially in relationships, which may be deepening and becoming richer. You may be experiencing love therapy for opening the heart as new relationships begin and old ones develop. Enjoy!

Reverse

When we block love, obviously we refuse to give or receive it. An interesting thing here is that love is an energy, an aspect of the life force, and it flows through us whether we admit it or not. The unhappy souls who refuse to acknowledge it still have it within them, ignored, denied. Another way we block love is to become the kind of people pleaser who wants to do everything for others but won't let them give in return.

The twisted energy of love shows up as jealousy, possessiveness, attention-seeking, and demanding behavior. It is focused on getting rather than giving and results in unhappiness rather than happiness. It is also based on the entirely false idea that there is not enough love in the world for everyone to have as much as they need. Another twist is believing that it is up to others to make us happy, when really this is our own responsibility.

One of the worst things we can do is to deny love - to pretend we feel it when we don't and to pretend we don't when we do. Another is to try to destroy love between others by any means for any reason whatsoever. And the worst of all is taking advantage of the love of others to betray them.

"Faeries are both luminous and illuminating."
-Brian

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